catholic personals

I'm in a some what difficult situation.. I'm a BBW single Catholic living in the North West US. Oregon is the most nonreligious state in the US, Practicing Catholics here in there 20s and 30s are very rare. Also young men here in there 20s and 30a prefer thin girls, more so than many states... So, I have a lot on my plate there.
Currently I discovered I probably have Endometriosis.. I don't know how bad it is at the moment. However, I'm in a lot of pain, and i will probably have a hysterectomy... I can't take it any more, treatments aren't working...
At any rate.... I know I won't have children..... That is pretty clear at this point... To be honest... I've never wanted children. I grew up in a big family and I feel burnt out... The energy gives me high anxiety; I want to be able to sit in the front room and know some one isn't going to come running in screaming...
I've been looking at the personals... All the Catholic men I see want children....
I was wondering... how do I tell the men I date? When do I tell them? When do I tell them? I fear this will strongly affect my love life..
I haven't looked for a long time, and frankly, I'm not sitting on the side lines any more. I've done that long enough.. I'm not stressing about it, I'm just facing the fact that it IS an issue.
LOL, travel companion, that's a good one. I have Endometriosis and no money.
I also think I need to clarify, I DO NOT want children. I most certainly do not want to take care of my husband's children. It really complicates things... Again, I've had children in my life for a long time... I can't handle that kind of stress.
This makes things difficult because I'm a fairly conservative Catholic. I want to marry a Catholic, many practicing Catholic men do want children.
AtlantaBrave4Life, don't respond to my questions any more. you're a bitch.

Hi -- I understand how awful endometriosis is. My younger sister had a hysterectomy at age 27, and my best friend had one at 45. It really can be a horrible amount of pain, uncontrollable.

Now then, regarding your situation in terms of dating. As long as you do not want to be a parent -- you don't want to adopt, you don't want to mother step-children -- you are not entitled to matrimony according to the Catholic Church.

For Catholics, as you know, marriage is a Sacrament, and that Sacrament includes being open to life. In your case, conceiving a child isn't possible because of your medical condition, so you would be one who would adopt kids or foster kids.

However, you refuse to do that. You say you have no desire to parent in any way, and that means you cannot have a valid marriage.

So, you must look for other forms of companionship. You can certainly date Catholic men who also have no desire to have children, with the understanding that you cannot marry unless both of you have a change of heart about the importance of being open to life and being willing to parent (even if you can't personally procreate).

2008-12-23 16:05:20 by vashti

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The reason why I asked this question is because I signed up for a membership to a personals site. Then I got several resopnses from Filipinas, most of whom are Catholic. I'm a Baptist, by the way. I'm not sure if this kind of relationship would work out.

Now let's get to the heart of my question: when they get married, does the woman have to change into her husband's other Christian denomination. Does the man have to be a Catholic like his wife? Will there be compatiblilty issues arising from this type of relationship? Can the marriage co-exist with them having two different Christian religions?

Any answers are appreciated. I really need clarification on this topic.
Hmmm....interesting insight. It seems that my concerns have been answered and are well-addressed.

None of you ought to change religion. For the RCC, marriage between a Catholic and Non-Catholic Christian is a sacrament too, equal with marriage of Catholic couples.

About your relationship, I suggest you discuss this matter with the girl privately. As long as both of you are Christians, there won't be any major problems. My friend, a Calvinist, married a Catholic girl. They have a joint holy matrimony in a Catholic church. I call their matrimony 'joint' simply because it was led by a priest and a minister :) They keep their respective faiths, but agree that their future kids would be raised in the father's faith. It would be important for the child, though, to affirm a clear sense of religious identity. If the child is to be Baptist, allow him or her to be that religion alone. Children crave a sense of an identity and it is a mistake not to give them one.

2008-03-19 07:47:19 by brian 2010

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im feeling a bit depressed.. i dont know what to do.I m a single 22 year old girl. Im okay looking,People say im pretty.My body is slim to average and im quite smart since im a dean list student..yet I can t seem to find a guy that will like me too..It s always like the guy i like dont like me and the guy i dont like likes me. My 4 bestfriends all have found their perfect mates and even thinking about marriage.Im so happy for them but at the same time i feel like there is an emptiness in my life.I joined internet personals but nothing came out of that.

Is there anyone out there who has had a situation like mine yet found love?

Should I just give up and just pretend to be interested in the next guy who comes along and hope and pray that love will grow?

Does anyone know of a prayer that is guaranteed to work for situations like this?Im a Catholic so Catholic or Christian prayers to Jesus and God is appreciated/

Thank you so much for your help.I hope you all can advice me,
I really appreciated all your comments and they truly have made me feel better. It s clear to me that i think the best thing is for me to wait and not be too in a rush. I guess I should just continue waiting and pray to God and Jesus and it will come naturally.I was inspired by quite a few of you who took time to share their experience with me. I loved the answers from Glo, old softee 2001,luncheon Box, jake S. and Punkin. I wish i could pick all of you as the Best answer but I could just pick one.Id just like you to know how much i appreciate your advice and how much it helped me.Thank you again and may God bless you all.

Stop it! You are 22 and on the Deans list. You are in college and trying to get an education, you are young. You need to concentrate on this education first. A boyfriend would take time away from studies. The emotional involvement will be a hindrance to your education. Calm down. God will send you someone when you are ready! Take time to get your life together as far as your education this is what is important at the moment, and when you get done and are ready to be employed then will be a good time to begin looking and seeking the relationship. They are a great deal of work! I wish you the best. Everything that looks good is not always good for you! And of course you should not just take the next man that walks along, being alone is should not be lonely! Once must learn to love ones own company before you can expect someone else to enjoy it. Upon graduation you are going to be a very hot prospect! As far as a prayer, nothing special. You just pray with your words, speak to God as if you were speaking to your best friend, he already knows the desires of your heart. Do you know what he expects of you is the important question. This must all be in line. He listens to your heart. Good luck and God bless you!****
Exodus 20:1~17

2006-11-19 05:05:09 by GIna

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Chaotes? Or even... Pagans that don't necessarily follow an earth-based or overly moral path? Discordians? Ceremonial magicians? In real-life.

A sigil or servitor with that intent, perhaps?

I've checked WitchVox, but they only cater to earth-based, moral pagans that follow a rede or something of the sort... And that checklist was going so good 'til it got there. So doing the easy thing and putting up a listing ain't gunna work unless I lie (and I'm not good at lying over a long period of time) or find a different site... But personals aren't my thing, anyway.

And no, there're no bloody pagan college groups. I don't think the college I attend -has- any groups of any sort--I've been tempted to put up a note on the billboard asking for pagans of whatever sort to meet up down in the library, haha... The only pagan gatherings happen towns over, miles away, to boot! I have no way of leaving this sucktastic town, so they aren't a choice, plus I still live with my parents (either this, or dorms, and I have attachment problems); a church-going catholic and an unknown,.. though the catholic (Mum) bought me my tarot cards that one time, and the unknown (Dad) use to discuss reincarnation with me when I was younger, amongst other things. Which leaves me all confused.

Anyway, new question: am I completely screwed in this regard? Be blunt. I can take it!

See the Yahoo groups below for discordians.
You might also search google groups.

Also go to Meetup.com and search for discordian
There might be a meetup near you.

You can post to the forums and ask if anyone is from your area or ask for other links/resources there.

Good Luck!

2009-06-10 11:37:01 by Lllu